Most think that a Soul Mate is a lover, someone whom we can rely on to fill the void, replenish our energies with love & trust. This is not the case.
Soul Mates in spiritual term fall into two categories.
1) In its true sense a Soul Mate would be an aspect of your own Higher Self. Your Higher Self can split off into may personalities at once. These individuals have the same core energy as you, vibrate at the same frequency also as you.
You are not the total representation of your Soul or Higher Self – you are one aspect of that. If your Higher Self has other aspects of you here then it is not just your personality moving your Soul forwards. Each personality will be different to gain different insights, learn different things, achieve different goals.
Some aspects of you will be in spirit, guiding & otherwise learning, some will be within the Soul or Higher Self.
In this true reference of a Soul Mate it is rare to meet one, unless for higher reasons. A meeting would result in both wishing to evolve into each other, to become one. Nothing would progress & energy could implode = destruction of one or both. Soul Mates meeting usually repel each other, it is not always a harmonious meeting & is usually to clear energy, painfully as attraction is usually strong, pathways need to be trod independent of each other to maintain life & lesson progression.
2) The other description of a true Soul Mate in spiritual terms requires that we are all part of a spiritual race – therefore all connected. Therefor all have linked karma & baggage. We travel through incarnations within the same spiritual groups until links are undone, so we often meet, or are even born into relationships with soul mates. When karma & links are undone this is often difficult, & as above most of our soul mate relationship taken from this angle can be destructive, difficult, make us feel powerless as past energy is worked through. These relationships can also be filled with immense love & satisfaction as you know that you belong.
How many times have you met another, regardless of sex, & as soon as you have met you have parted. No animosity, energy was exchanged, you aiding them or visa versa & a few week down the line, the energy dies & you part.
Yet it is from this second category that we romanticise Soul Mates, as mentioned above that one, singular, perfect soul who can fulfil our need for love & acceptance, allow us to become whole, a task that can never be performed by another but only by the true self integrating with the personality.
It is not a Soul Mate we seek, but a life partner, a like minded soul, an emotional teacher & confidant, an equal who in turn we can teach & support. It is in these folk whom we meet those with Karmic ties, which is why some are indeed extremes of pain or joy, during which journeys balance is restored.
So do you really seek a Soul Mate?